So i started with ‘many people don’t know how deep it is’ but then, i asked myself again…are you sure they don’t? Or they probably don’t know its benefits? Or could it be that they don’t know the notion behind it?
All these questions kept on bothering my mind and so it dawned on me that its simply because they don’t know how deep it is.
Wow! I sighed, really? How can people not know that it is good to show gratitude or rather not good to be ungrateful?
But the more i looked into it, i found out that for many of us, gratitude is tied up with more complex feelings, perhaps as a result of having to write thank-you letters as a child, or to say thank you for things that we didn’t want. This makes it harder to establish when gratitude should be felt or expressed, and also often makes us feel awkward rather than grateful.
What exactly is the meaning of this thing called GRATITUDE?
The word ‘gratitude’ comes from the Latin word gratus, meaning pleasing or thankful.
In essence, Gratitude is a warm feeling of thankfulness towards specific individuals.
The person who feels gratitude is thankful for what they have, and does not constantly seek more.
As deep as it is, most of us still ask these questions, such as…
Do you think one should feel and/or express gratitude in these following situations?
1. You have been given a gift of something that you really like by a friend or relative.
Hopefully your answer is that you should feel and express gratitude!
2. Your eccentric aunt gives you a very strange gift (it could be an item of clothing that you’ll never wear, or a book by an author that you actively dislike).
You should certainly express gratitude: she has given you a gift, even if it wouldn’t have been your first choice. You can always pass it on to someone else later if you don’t want it. You should probably also try to feel gratitude – for the trouble and time she has spent, if not for the actual gift.
3. In the course of an interaction in your place of work, someone there has been very helpful( he/ she could be your colleague). He was only doing his job, but it has made your life much easier.
Again, feeling gratitude would be graceful. Expressing it would also be graceful because it may help the person who helped you to feel that his assistance is worthwhile and makes him more likely to do it again, whether to you or someone else.
4. Your life is good. You are generally happy, you have lovely children, and a rewarding job.
You may feel that you have earned this. You have worked hard for your success, and there is nobody to thank but yourself. Alternatively, you may feel grateful that your hard work has been rewarded but know that it is not by your hard work but by God’s grace hence the need to be grateful.
And finally, you have been shown love to by people around you(it could be in form of kind words about you, whether spoken or written).
Yes! You absolutely need to be grateful because they have gone out of their busy schedule to make your head swell (lol), to make you feel important, to make you smile. And so, a heart of gratitude won’t be too much.
Alot of you might be thinking what’s the need for all these now.
A typical example can be seen in Luke 17: 11-19 when Jesus healed ten lepers, but only one of them returned to give thanks. And Jesus asked Where are the other nine?
The problem here is that you have always been part of the nine. But let me challenge you,
Have you come to Jesus and encountered His grace, love and mercy? If yes: then;
• It’s time to become a person of gratitude and thanksgiving!
• It’s time to become a person of love, grace and forgiveness!
• It’s time to become a person who sacrifices his/her time and talents in service to others!
• It’s time to get involved in your local church, building the Kingdom of God.
• It’s time to stop being a follower of the nine, and become a follower of the only one… JESUS! So we can enjoy the continuous gifts.
As Christians, we need to cultivate the virtue of thankfulness in our lives. To people around us and to God himself only then can we receive more from people and from God.